My husband and I are teaching a marriage class at church by Bill and Pam Farrel, “Men Are Like Waffles and Women Are Like Spaghetti.” Usually, we teach a marriage class called, “Preparing for Marriage,” and it’s for engaged couples planning to marry within the year. The topic of marriage has become a passion for my husband.
I recall the first time we taught “Preparing for Marriage.” We nearly got a divorce! Satan attacked us ever which way he could. Then we wised up. Instead of letting his attacks discourage us, we started using them as illustrations in class! We suddenly developed a reputation for being real and we wouldn’t want it any other way.
I’d like for you and me to get real about the subject of marriage. Over the next few days or weeks, I’d like us to chat about why men are like waffles and women are like spaghetti. I know that teaching these classes along side of my husband have been fun, difficult at times, down right hilarious, and life changing. I hope the same will happen as we share, grow, and learn from one another.
Now, according to Bill and Pam, men process life in boxes such as the shape of a waffle. Each box is a separate from the other and they can only be in one box at a time. So, when a man is at work, he’s in his work box. When a man is watching t.v, he’s in his t.v. box. Men also like spending time in the boxes that is he good at. This makes him feel successful.
Women process life more like a plate of spaghetti. Just like the noodles turn and twist weaving in and out and touching one another so are a woman’s thoughts. Every emotion, thought or issue is connected to every other emotion thought or issue in her life. That’s why we are better at multi-tasking girls. We can cook dinner while talking on the phone, helping the kids with their homework, make out tomorrow’s to do list, and spy on the neighbor’s all at the same time!
Now here’s a secret. When you ask your husband, “what’ch’ thinkin'” and he says, “nothin’.” He’s telling you the truth. He is most likely in his blank box. There, he can think absolutely nothing! I know, I know because we are constantly thinking it’s hard to imagine that men can actually be thinking about nothing, but they can.
I’m curious. What differences do you see between you and your husband. What did you find familiar, true or funny?