My husband and I are opposites. I’m a free-spirit where as he’s more on the conservative side. I guess its true—opposites attract. It works for us. You might say we complete each other. I encourage him to fly while he balances my feet and keeps them steady on the ground. I like this about him and I’m learning more and more to listen to his wise counsel.
I tend to be spontaneous and forget to look ahead. Not my husband. He’s always planning ahead. While we don’t always see eye to eye when planning for the future, in the end I’m always glad I let him lead. For example:
I’ve always loved fashion and try my best to dress in style. When the catalogs arrive at my house, I make mental notes as I flip through the pages of the latest styles in clothes, shoes, and hair-do’s. When finished, I can tell you what’s hot and what’s not. I can also tell you what the new color is for the winter, spring, summer and fall.
The only problem is after I look, I covet. I want all the new fashions. Not just one or two pieces will do. I must have them all and the accessories to match! After I’ve gathered this information and my heart is pounding with desire, I have to convince my husband that I need to SHOP!
He’s always been understanding and had no problem with me buying a new item or two. However, this time Pat reminded me that we were planning for our summer vacation. Therefore, we didn’t have any extra money to spend. I was disappointed, of course, but being the good wife that I am, I didn’t go. Instead, I cleaned the house to release my shopping energy.
As I dusted the top of our high-boy hutch in the bedroom, seven one hundred dollar bills came floating down on top of me. My first thought was—now I can go shopping! My second though was—Ah, Ha! That rascal told me we didn’t have any money. Fanning the money in front of his face, I blurted out in a suspicious tone, “Care to explain why there is seven hundred dollars lying around our bedroom?”
It turned out he was saving the money for our family vacation. “You’re welcome to spend it on clothes, but if you do, we can’t go on vacation. We just don’t have the money to do both.” He said in the calm way that he always speaks when I’m riled up. Then he continued. “What would you really like to have; new clothes or lasting memories of our family vacation?” He’s usually not that good. But, nevertheless, he was right. As it turned out, it was a vacation to remember!
As a woman, I tend to make decisions based on my emotions. I’m not saying my feelings are entirely wrong. They are just not entirely dependable. I guess that’s why God provided me with a husband who can make good decisions based on our needs instead of my greeds. Isn’t that just like God—always looking out for us providing strength when were weak; hope when we’re discouraged, and wise counsel when the shopping bug bites!