Welcome blogger friends! Today I’m giving away two free books! Growing a healthy marriage is that important!
First, here are five ways you can nurture your marriage?
1.)Speak your spouse’s love language. Gray Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages, helps couples understand and speak their spouses love language. Most of the time, the way your spouse wants to be loved is how they show love. Does you spouse express love by:
• Words of affirmations
• Giving of gifts
• Quality time
• Acts of service
• Physical touch
If you spotted your spouse’s love language, start speaking it today.
2.)Be willing to Forgive. This is a hard one, I know. If you’re a part of the human species than you’re mostly likely to hold a grudge than offer forgiveness. But resentment only builds to a boiling point, and when it blows, it’s not pretty. Someone once said that harbored bitterness is like mixing poison for the one who has wronged you but drinking it yourself. It’s tough to forgive when the feeling isn’t there. However, I’ve found that when I’m obedient to forgive, the feeling eventually catches up.
3.)Fight Fair. If you’re like me, you fight to win. If you’re like my husband, you retreat. Because my husband avoids conflict, I always win. This created two problems: 1.) He began to harbor resentment that I was unaware of, and 2.) I had the false perception I was always right. So my husband came up with a solution to resolving conflict that he loves to share in the “Preparing for Marriage” class at church. “If the woman will fight naked, there will be no fight.” Just for the record—we’ve yet to test this theory.
4.)Love your spouse for who they are. There’s a famous line from a movie that goes, “You complete me.” There’s a lot of truth to that. In most cases opposites attract. I was drawn to the characteristics in my husband that I didn’t have. His strengths were the opposite of my weaknesses and vice versa. When we were dating, I loved that he always wanted to spend quality time with me (his love language). Now that we’re married, I’d love two minutes alone! Those quirky things about your spouse that drives you crazy are the very things you were first drawn to. Why—because they complete you!
5.)Date your spouse. This is a biggie! Rekindle your passion by asking your spouse on a date. In fact, set aside one day of the week for date night every week. Then, get creative! Tuck an invitation under the pillow, in his briefcase, or in a bouquet of flowers. The date doesn’t have to be expensive. You can take the kids to grandma’s or a neighbor and spread a candle lit dinner out on the living room floor. You can take a walk in the park, get an ice-cream cone, or see a movie. The main thing is spending time together nurturing your relationship instead of growing apart.
There’s lots of ways to cultivate a marriage. Let’s encourage each other. Share your tips. What have you tried that works and what doesn’t? The best tip given will win two free books! “Capture His Heart” and “Capture Her Heart” by Lysa Terkeurst. Visit Lysa’s blog at http://www.lysaterkeurst.com/