I’m sad today. It’s not post sickness blues either. My heart is breaking for a mom I know. I first met this lady at Davidson Academy where our sons attended school together. After a few short years of knowing this family, tragedy struck. Cancer took the life of her young husband—leaving behind his wife and three children—two boys and a girl.
Having experienced the loss of my spouse too, I could identify with her grief. Yet, while my days grew brighter, hers grew darker. She and her children have encountered one hardship after another. It’s almost as if they can’t escape trouble. It follows them wherever they go. While I don’t feel at liberty to share all their misfortunes, I will share this one…
Last weekend, this mother lost her son. Word spread quickly that he had been shot in the neck in his room at school. He was rushed to the hospital, identified the shooter, and then died after surgery. It was his senior year of college. He had his whole life ahead of him. And then, just like that—it was gone. This time, I can’t imagine her grief. What I can do is pray for her. I would like to ask you to pray, too.
This is one of those situations that cause us to ask, “Why, God?” Or maybe the question for you goes something like this: “If God is good, loving, and in control of all things, why do bad things happen to good people?”
I’m not sure I’ve found the answer or at least the total answer, but allow me to share an excerpt from my book that might help.
“Each person in some way has tasted the bitterness of sorrow and tragedy. In spite of all that, this was never God’s plan. In His original blue-print, God didn’t design disease, exploitation, uncertainty, combat, sickness or death. These are the results of living in a fallen, broken, sin-sick world. Everything God created he said was “Good.” Then sin entered in and we’ve been a wild generation ever since.”
The message here is that God’s heart breaks too when a loved one dies. He is saddened when a child is abused, when the elderly is mistreated, when war breaks out, and when our children’s schools are overtaken by teenagers with shotguns. This was never His plan.
May I share more from my book?
“Peter suggests that our sufferings can come either from good or from evil. This is how Peter says it. “It’s better, if it is God’s will, to suffer for doing good than evil” (I Peter 3:17). Don’t misunderstand. Suffering is not always our fault! Our pain can be the result of our own rebellion or the rebellion of others. It can also be the product of a close relationship with God in which we are persecuted for our faith. Sometimes it simply comes from living in a fallen world.”
Here’s what I want us to get…
“The only way to see worth in our pain is to realize it has purpose. Though we despise suffering, it educates us, transforms us, allows us to share in the inheritance of Christ, and give us a ministry of compassion for others who suffer. This is God’s promise. “God causes all things to work together for good for those whom He loves and are called according to His purpose.”
Yes, it takes time to see and experience the benefit. Once we do, we come to realize that “time isn’t what heals our pain. Time is the pathway that leads to the Healer of pain.”
Praying for this mom….