Sex is God’s idea. And it’s a good one. Everybody wants in on it especially the marketing industry. Why? Sex sells. Advertisements use sex to sell anything from a hamburger to a Caribbean cruise. According to a FamilyLife resource, sex has become a cultural obsession, but the picture of sex that our culture paints is a cheap counterfeit and a perversion of God’s original design.
Hi, I’m glad you stopped by today. I hope you’ve had the chance to read my devotion, The Sticker Book. Let’s be honest. We’ve all struggled with this topic. Growing up, most of us received a poor sex education. What we do know or have experienced has been twisted by our culture. Schoolgirls today have a false perception that sex is how to keep a boyfriend. Guys, on the other hand, tend to think if I get married I can have sex any time I want it. (Yeah right.) Since sex is God’s idea for the married couple, let’s consider what He has to say about it.
God not only created sex…
“For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh” (Gen 2:24)
…He did so for a reason.
1.) Procreation: “And God blessed Adam and Eve and said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth’” (Gen 1:28).
The family is God’s choice for passing His Word from one generation to another. Wow!
2.) Pleasure: “Let you fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth. As a loving hind and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times; be exhilarated always with her love” (Proverbs 5:18-19).
Sex is NOT a sin nor is it dirty. It’s meant to be pleasurable.
3.) Protection: “But because of immoralities, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body but the wife does. Stop depriving one another exept by agreement for a time that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again lest Satan tempt you because o f your lack of control” (1 Corinthians 7:2-5).
Sex is intended to protect a husband and wife from temptation. Failure to sexually satisfy each other in a marriage may lead to a spouse looking outside of marriage for fulfillment. Sex is meant to PROTECT one another.
What if I’m not married?
Premarital sex is so common in our culture today that some people who remain pure until marriage are considered “old-fashion.” But God has your best interest in mind when He commanded us to wait and not engage in fornication. He wants us to experience the absolute best, rather than a poor counterfeit.
How do we cope with differences?
According to FamilyLife, men and women approach sex differently. Here’s how they map it out.
Men—Body centered, Sight, Smell, Actions
Women—Person centered, Touch, Attitudes, Words
Men—Respect, To be physically needed, Physical expression
Women—Respect, To be emotionally needed, Relational intimacy
Men—Acyclical, Quick excitement, Difficult to distract
Women—Cyclical, Slow excitement, Easily distracted
Men—Shorter, more intense, Physically oriented
Women—Longer, more in-depth, emotionally oriented
You would think God would have made us more compatible. Hope this helps! Don’t be afraid to talk it over with your spouse. Perhaps as you shop together for a sticker book.