Hi Friend, I’m so glad you stopped by today. It’s an exciting day for me. Today is my baby girl’s 18th birthday. I’m very emotional—but in a good way. I can’t stop thinking about the privilege I have of being my her mother. She has brought such joy to our family. I’m so proud of her! …not because of her achievements; not because of her kind heart or her love for Jesus; I’m proud of her simply because she’s mine.
Happy Birthday, Peyton!! Your mom loves you!
The second reason I’m excited is YOU! Welcome to my NEW site! Throughout my updating process, I had you in mind. So spend some time looking around. You can down load the freebies, (which will be updated often) or read my story, check a short video of me speaking… it’s all yours!
Finally, I’m excited about today’s devotion. Friendship is important to us girls. But relationships can also be hard to manage.
One thing that amazes me about this story is that while Saul’s hatred for David was growing every day, others were growing in love for David. We’re told that the Israelites loved him, that the King’s son Jonathan loved him, and that the King’s daughter loved him. In the midst of David’s darkest hour, Saul burned with hatred toward David while everyone else was growing more and more fond of him.
What caught my interest is the same thing happens to you and me. The closer you and I get to becoming the woman God wants us to be the more enemies we’ll create. Likewise, the closer we get to becoming the woman God wants us to be the more attractive we become to others. This is exactly why Saul became such an enemy of David: because David was gaining popularity with everyone around him and stealing the attention away from Saul.
There was a reason why Jonathan and his sister both were drawn to David. It’s because David was a young man of exemplary character. His integrity and honor shone through so that those with whom he came in contact wanted to spend time with him.
Have you ever been around a person like that? These are the kind of people that we want to be friends with and who make friends much more easily because they’re attractive on the inside.
When you and I grow in the image of Jesus Christ, when our lives begin to reflect the fruits of the Holy Spirit, when we, because of what’s on the inside become different on the outside, we will begin to draw people to ourselves. There will be something attractive about us that has nothing to do with our external appearance.
The opposite it also true. There are a lot of people today who have no friends because they’re just plain ugly on the inside and it shows through to the outside. If we want a friend then the contemporary proverb is true: to have a friend you’ve got to be a friend. We’ve got to be the kind of people with whom others want to be friends with.
If you’re hungering for a close friend or for deeper intimacy in a relationship that you already have then take another long look at the relationship between David and Jonathan and commit to developing the characteristics of a true friend. You can also…
1. Pray for a Jonathan. We have a tendency to underemphasize the power of prayer. God wants us to have godly friendships. He didn’t create us to be Lone Christians. God wants to provide intimacy for you in the form of a friend, and the best place to start looking is by asking God.
2. When you find your “Jonathan,” commit to the friendship for life. Intimate friendships take time. They don’t happen overnight. It’s something that takes commitment and longevity. We’re told that David and Jonathan made a covenant; a contract. That’s a good idea! Too many friendships fall apart over the small stuff. But the bible says, “A true friend loves at all times.” Make a covenant with your friend to stick it out through thick or thin.
3. Be a good friend. That sounds simple, but think about it. Growing up I bet your mom and dad wanted you to choose “good” friends. Their desire went far beyond good behavior. Your parents wanted your friends to be good for you. They wanted someone who would challenge you to be your very best; someone who would hold you accountable; someone who would take your side. We should desire no less for ourselves as we choose our friendships as adults.
What about you? Are your friends better off by knowing you? Be a good friend and choose good friends, and you can have the kind of friendship that David and Jonathan shared.