Living with four teenagers, I’m constanly resloving conflict and culitvating peace. It’s not easy, believe me! That’s why I have the page on peace dog-eared in Rick Warren’s book, “The Purpose Driven Life.” As I was reviewing it again today, I thought to myself… This is too good not to share! So, I’m sharing it with you today. I pray it bring PEACE to your relationships!
Jesus said, “Blessed are those who work for peace” – those who actively seek to resolve conflict. Peacemakers are rare because peacemaking is hard work…
Peacemaking is not [merely] avoiding conflict … Sometimes we need to avoid conflict, sometimes we need to create it, and sometimes we need to resolve it. That’s why we must pray for the Holy Spirit’s continual guidance …
Peacemaking is also not appeasement. Always giving in, acting like a doormat, and allowing others to always run over you is not what Jesus had in mind…
Seven Biblical Steps to Restoring Conflict
1. Talk to God before talking to the person [James 4:1-2]
2. Always take the initiative [Matthew 5:23-24]
3.Sympathize with their feelings [Philippians 2:4]
4. Confess your part of the conflict [Matthew 7:5]
5. Attack the problem, not the person [Proverbs 15:1]
6. Cooperate as much as possible [Romans 12:18]
7. Emphasize reconciliation, not resolution [1 Peter 3:11]
We can reestablish a relationship even when we are unable to resolve our differences. Christians often have legitimate, honest disagreements and differing opinions, but we can disagree without being disagreeable … God expects unity, not uniformity, and we can walk arm-in-arm without seeing eye-to-eye on every issue … This doesn’t mean you give up on finding a solution. You may need to continue discussing and even debating-but you do it in a spirit of harmony. Reconciliation means you bury the hatchet, not necessarily the issue.