Have you ever secretly compared your spouse to another man or woman? Perhaps you’ve wished they were more thoughtful, spiritual, or just a better dresser like “so-in-so.” Instead of wishing, comparing, or complaining about our spouse’s shortcomings, we should try nurturing our mates lovingly in the area they need most.
I heard an encouraging story about handsome millionaire who married an ordinary woman. This marriage became the gossip among the town’s people. “Why would he marry her when he could have any woman he wanted?” “It won’t last. She’s just not good enough for him.” the town’s people whispered among themselves.
The man took the ordinary woman away for six months on an exotic honeymoon. When he returned, there appeared to be another woman on his arm. She walked with confidence and poise. The countenance of her face glowed with beauty. “Now, that’s the kind of woman he should be with,” announced the town’s biggest loud mouth.
As the happy couple causally strolled past the gossipmonger, she got a closer look. To her surprise it wasn’t someone new holding the gentlemen’s arm at all. It was the average woman he had married months ago—completely transformed!
The handsome millionaire had taken his bride away and nurtured her inward beauty. He loved her and spoke positive and encouraging words to her day in and day out until she began to believe she was beautiful. The once ordinary woman now carries herself with confidence and exudes the exquisiteness that her husband saw in her all along. His secret, you ask? He took time to care for and fertilize her confidence until she grew into grandeur display.
Let me assure you if you think your spouse seems less than. The grass is not greener on the other side. Trust me. That man you’ve got your eye on doesn’t clip his toenails either. Nor does that woman rub her man’s feet while feeding him grapes after a long day at work.
You and I shouldn’t dream about taking off our shoes and walking around on the neighbors grass. Instead, we should try fertilizing our own yard. We might be surprised how it blossoms into a thing of beauty.
Courtney says
Oh! I love this! My husband is that man! We’re working on my confidence now! Please pray for us!
Nikki Harvey says
At times in I believe all our lives but I have definitely found in mine, we loose focus on God and his will and way. I tend to do this more when I think I am in control and can handle anything that life throws me. As the days go by I slip farther away from our Father … But then He reminds me that I am not in control and I have not solve any of my problems on my own … Instead He has stood behind me and in front of me and fighting the enemy and conquering my trials. It is thru amazing people as you (a true gift) who God speaks thru and I am suddenly reminded that it was Him not me and even when I think I have control deep down it has always just been the faith of a mustard seed that is embedded in my heart that our loving forgiving Father sees no matter how far I have drifted away. Thank you and bless you for helping me see this.