In the last post, we learned that fear doesn’t come from God. It comes from Satan in the form of a lie. That’s easy to understand. The problem is sometimes I catch myself believing the lie. (I’m not good enough) And the lie holds me back from living my life and accomplishing all God has for me.
“What fear is holding you back?”
- being broke
- what others think of me
- not being good enough
- ________________ (fill in the blank)
We can all find something that haunts us. Take William for example.
Will is a wealthy man and yet he lives in great fear he’ll lose everything over night.
Janie and Blake’s close friends lost their son to a drug overdose. They are terrified their son will succumb to the pressure of a drug pusher.
Jon and Angie carry the burden of failure. They’re afraid they didn’t do enough for their kids. They failed to prepare them for the world. Now, they worry their kids will be failures too.
Lindsey has so many friends getting divorced she lies awake at night wondering if she adequate as a wife for Sam.
Heather’s husband walked out on their marriage while she was pregnant with their first child. She suffers with feelings of rejection and fears being alone the rest of her life.
Dennis wonders if he’s going insane. He’s suspicious of others around him. He always feels as if someone is out to get him.
Ella realizes her intense dislike for her boss is because she’s afraid of her. She sees her boss as someone who controls her life and future.
If you saw yourself in any of these examples be reassured you’re not alone.
I’m not the only one in my household who struggles with fear, worry and anxiety either. Both my husband and daughter do as well. Here’s what we’ve learned.
Our fear is 100% dependent on us for its survival. Therefore, I have power to destroy it—to not allow it to hold me back from a life of peace and purpose! Here’s how.
1.) Look Your Fear In The Face.
Acknowledge your fear. This may be hard to do at first but it will get easier. What is that fear that disturbs your daily activity? Name it.
2.) Write It Down
Take that fear that lives in the dark places of your mind and bring it into light on the outside. Writing down your fear externalizes it.
3.) Speak Truth
Say out loud, “This fear doesn’t come from God. It’s a lie. God doesn’t give me a spirit of fear, but of power, love and self-control.”
4.) Put It Under God’s Authority And Leave It There
I’ve learned there’s a direct connection between God’s presence and the absence of fear. When I put things I fear under His authority, those things lose their power to terrorize me.
Sometimes You Must Do What You fear.
We were on our way to school to hear Peyton, my daughter, sing in the school choir. On the way, Peyton had an anxiety attack. I had to pull over on the side of the road.
Through her sobs and tears, Peyton explained that she was too afraid to stand with the others and sing in front of an audience.
That’s a normal fear for most. It was a fear I understood. (Did you know I had a fear of public speaking?) My heart ached for my daughter. She loves to sing. My first instinct was to take her home and hold her. However, I knew if I did she wouldn’t grow past this fear.
We talked about it in the car. We talked about how fear was a lie from the enemy. We discussed how he wanted to hold her back and steal her joy of singing and this was not God’s plan.
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you not to harm you, to give you a hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11).
I prayed for God to give her strength to look her fear in the face and sing anyway.
After I prayed, I asked Peyton what she wanted to do.
“I want to sing.” She said.
Peyton sang that night at school. I could still see fear on her face, but she pushed through it. I was proud of her. By pushing through her anxiety, Peyton discovered the fear didn’t hold any real power.
Guess what? The following year, she sang a solo.
Food For Thought: Your fear is 100% dependent on you for its survival. Will you keep the fear alive or put it to death?
Truth To Remember: “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you not to harm you, to give you a hope and a future”(Jeremiah 29:11).
Let’s practice acknowledging our fear and writing it down. Leave yours in a comment below. The fear I most struggle with is not being good enough.