Have you ever wondered if your loved one can look down from heaven and see what’s going on here on earth? I have. In fact, sometimes I ask God to give my loved one a message. You know, something like we love and miss you.
I don’t really know if it works that way but it brings me comfort.
What I really want to know is can our loved ones see us as well as the good and bad activity on earth?
“While heaven is a place of joy and peace, we can be certain that our loved ones in heaven are not disturbed or troubled about what’s happening on earth. What the bible isn’t clear about is whether or not those in heaven can see us, although it gives hints that they do.
The book of Hebrew tells about great men and women of faith who are in heaven. Then it goes on to state, “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses … let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us” (Hebrews 12:1).
Like spectators in an arena, the bible seems to suggest, they are watching and cheering us on as we seek to follow Christ. That’s because the main theme of heaven is Christ. Those in heaven now see everything from God’s point of view instead of an early perspective.
Heaven is a mystery, but one thing is for sure. Our hope of heaven is based on Jesus Christ and what He did for us through His death and resurrection.”
If you have a loved one in heaven, you can be assured they are happy and secure. What about you? Do you know Christ? If so, you’ll one day be reunited with those who have gone before you. What a day that will be. However, compared to Jesus, seeing our loved ones is secondary. Seeing Jesus face to face in all His glory will be our greatest delight!
Because I know how difficult loss is, I’m giving away a free copy of my book, An Untroubled Heart. If you need encouragement or know someone who does, leave a commitment and enter to win!
Looking forward to eternity!!
words by Billy Graham
Hi Mica I also can relate to ‘seeing’ our loved ones in someone else and the heartache and terrible loneliness returns. I have lost my three sons 2 through suicide and the youngest who had profound mental and physical disabilities died at 17 when his little body could not take anymore and he slipped away in his sleep. I believe in our Lord and thank Him that he sustained me through these terrible tragedies and sustains me day by day and I appreciate all encouragement that comes my way.
My husband passed away two years ago and i ask same questions. There has been a few things that have happened that makes me believe he is letting me know he is there with me and i prayed to God while while my husband was going thru his journey to show me a sign that would give me peace in my heart and he did, still feel lonely and trying live my life as it is now, with out Gods help i don’t think i could make it.
I don’t believe it would be in our deceased best interest to view this world of sin from the place where there is no sin nor sadness.
I agree
My boyfriend died on Dec 22,2021 right before Christmas and I feel so alone but I wanna see him again all these lonely days and every holiday is coming up and I can’t spend it with him his bday is February 25, I’m so loss and hurt
My dad passed away n I miss him so much,, I would like to know if he can see me and know how important he is to me,, I look forward to the day I am going to meet him
I feel your pain and hurt Archana. I lost my dad last year, he died in my arms while I was on phone with 911. I am still battling the deep seated sorrow and pain his passing away has left me. I do not understand how people say they find comfort in this or that or see signs n all. Distractions or everyday life yes, keeps you busy and away from falling in a sinkhole of depression. However, when you are alone, and all work and chores around are done, friends and family are busy with other things, then that void returns fresh as if it just hit you then. I keep waiting with my eyes peeled and ears alert, that maybe just maybe I might see a glimpse of my dad’s spirit or hear his voice or something like that for one last time, but nothing yet. Something, or some angel just giving me straight forward sign- no riddles. Sorry for your loss friend and know there are many like you who miss their loved ones beyond expression and are just hoping, waiting to see or hear them, even to get just a glimpse once again…I did see him 3-4 times in my dreams though- and that does help momentarily, that morning I am very satisfied and happy because I feel my dad talked to me:) I just keep telling my dad,” don’t you forget me papa, I miss you”.
your dreams are your father from heaven he is letting you know he is ok and love and misses you to you r truly blessed yay my mother has sent me signs as well live happy knowing they will b waiting at the gate for you do your best to praise god and bring glory to him and you will see your dad again do you think god would create a tree to live 1000s of years that cannot love or feel anything then give us that can only 70 years this earth life is only to lead us to love and lose so we are stronger in are beliefs that god is great
You will see him when you least expected !!! I saw my husband two months after he passed !!! I was cooking and putting the clean dishes away . All of sudden I saw this figure bouncing down my stairs . I looked and it was my husband . He stopped at the bottom of stairs , like he was thinking !!! making up his mind rather to come my way . When he did he kept his head turn. so i didn’t look in his face. I know my husband anywhere we was together for 35 yrs . He died from sarcoidosis it had him sick for 21 yrs .
I lost my loved one, died in my arms, to this day I still dont have answers why he died? Suddenly and unexpectedly. Its almost 3 years since he was taken away from me, I lost everyone since
his passing, partly due to my anger, I became a mean person, someone Im not, I pushed eveyone away. My fiances death destroyed my zest for life and living. I talk to him everyday, hoping for a sign , but nothing, few dreams vivid as real life, in the morning I feel happier, next day, I go back to depression and anxious state.
Being alone and lonly makes it harder. People just don’t undertand my grief and cant deal with me. I isolated myself from them because I was tired of them flauting their happy perfect life in front of me, they think that will bring me joy and heal me. It makes it worse, because I lost love of my life and cant cintinue our dream journey. Only those that lost a loved one will understand how I feel.
If there is God, I do believe in higher power, but , why does he take away the young and good ones before HE, gives then a fighting chance? When there are so many that are ready to go and do bad things.
CJ is totally understand your loss. I lost my husband 21 months ago. I miss him more than anyone really understands. Someone said last week when I posted something Facebook…”I am sorry you are having a bad day.” I have yet to have a good day. I have cried many times daily and I can’t concentrate on much of anything. People act like I have a new life and ask what my plans are and if I am going on vacation….what?? I can’t even decide what to make for dinner most days. I feel like you do about our dreams being lost. I don’t even know how to dream about anything in my future. I also understand how it seems like other people are living life around us. I don’t really even know how to chime in anymore. My life was loving and caring for my husband. We never had children and of course not grandkids to keep me busy either. What I am doing is starting a support group. It is Veteran’s Survivor Support Services. I hope to try helping others to find benefits and perhaps find some sort of purpose for my life… What I really want is to be with my husband, but in God’s time. I hope you can find some peace and comfort. I will pray for you.
So sorry for your loss. I to lost my angle (wife) .July 13 2018 i am lost without her.i can not discribe the pain i am in right now writing this.But i know in my heart that God does not take.god waits with a open hand for you to take. i know also god sent her here to get me straight .and she did without raising her voice .i think here job was done on earthso the cancer took her and God was waiting for her.I Love You FLO
Hello Laverne,
I lost my husband almost two years ago…it is just a couple of weeks away from the date of his passing. He died holding my hand, but was in a coma. He suffered a heart attack and a stroke at the same time. I find that most people don’t really understand the closeness of my husband and I. I have had several people ask me if I will remarry. I then realize that they don’t know what I am going through and I am sure you have that same type of thing happen to you. We never had children so I certainly feel the loneliness, The feelings loss you are experiencing are very much like mine. I was thinking all weekend long…..Why am I still here. I don’t enjoy doing things alone and sometimes also feel that if I pass no one will even notice. As to the thoughts that suicide is genetic….I absolutely do not feel it is! Perhaps you can find something that you used to do prior to marriage that you would enjoy doing again? One thing that I feel would really help is to have a friend phone every day. I know that helped me during the time right after my husband passed away. Do you still work? If so, at least you are getting out. I was told if I could find a group of groups that were active that it would pass the time more easily. I haven’t done real well with that, since I broke my darn ankle…..every bone in it. Had to do it right you know!
I don’t know if I have been of any help to you or not. If you would like to keep a conversation going I will jump on again and I bet others will too. You might just have some ideas for others too ;~)
Bless you,
Connie
Hey cj i can honestly say i know wat your going thru as i just lost my fiance 4 days ago..my heart..my life was ripped from me..he was only 48..the greatest gift god gave me next to my kids. Everyday i want to go be with him..i want him to wake up bc its happened before..everything that was ours i now have to give away bc no will no marriage..life sux
Iam right behind you CJ. I lost my fiancee in February 2019 to a car accident. It changed my life completely. Ive pushed away people cause of anger but some people just can’t see our pain and little things can set us off. Support is huge but finding the right support is tough. I too get jealous of friends that are married and happy because I won’t ever have that with my fiancee. I pray things will get better for us in the future.
just lost my son jason a twin so hard miss him so much cant uder stand why him 40 why not take the evil ones he takes the good the baby killeres still here old my yong son gone cant make since out of this so many whys no ansares jason had mentl but very loving kind sweet save me a table at jesus table with family love mom dad chad michael
I am sorry. I lost my fiancé, the love ❤️ of my life Julie December 2019. I understand how you feel. I miss Julie everyday. Just know you will see your loved one someday and they are always with you
I recently lost my husband who was shot and killed through hijacking 3months ago. We were supposed to renew our wedding vows this December but his no longer here. I pray everyday for him to come back and I know he wont. I’m so angry at everyone and the fact that no one has been arrested for his murder. I ask God to give me strength to forgive them but I want to know who killed him. I have 2beautiful boys 10&3years. I just wish I could speak to him or see him just this once. Life is so hard without him.
I’m praying for you today, friend.
I recently lost my husband as well. He drowned almost right in front of me as we were caught in a horrific rip current. I was fighting for my life so there was no chance of saving him. I did not even know he was in trouble until it was too late, floating face down in the water. We were newlyweds, deeply in love and I am having so much trouble putting this into any kind of perspective. I have looked for signs, hoped for dreams of him, nothing. He is just gone. Would be so comforting to think he is with me in some way but I really don’t think he is. He would be sad to know how utterly devastated I am and Heaven is supposed to be a happy place which is why I don’t think he sees the devastation here.
I am so sorry for your loss I to lost my wife 4 months ago I am truly destroyed she surely was the love of my life and I’m so confused because God said I will create you anew there will be no more sorrow there will be no more death every tear shall be dried there will be no more pain we’ll my question is if God gives this to you which I believe whole heartedly how would he let our loved ones see us from heaven wouldn’t they have pain watching us suffer down here on earth with all the turmoil and theft and misery I don’t believe he would and it hurts me because I miss my love so much and I want her to know how much I really loved her but again I’m very sorry for the loss of your husband that had to be devastating knowing he drowned very sorry I know you and I will never get over it even if people say move on it’s not true you will never forget it but we will see them again in heaven i truly believe that
That is tragic, death is hard no atter how it happens but with murder or if someone takes their own life it makes it much harder to deal with than an elderly person. My mom passed away in August in a hospice house, I am so happy that I can know God’s word say to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord. Even though I cried like a baby that night, I had that word to hold on to, because nothing could be better than that. She lived a long life and was suffering so it was bitter sweet. I miss her all the time and sometimes I’ll think I need to call my mom or I need to go see my mom. With a spouse or child it is a very different loss so grief is hard to deal with and so different for the differnt people in our life mean something different to each of us. I always told people after my son passed away, you must take one day at the time, never worry about tomorrow. God tells us that, but sometimes you just need to get through each hour or each minute!!! But you do it. One step at the time, for real, one step at a time, go no futher in time just make it through right now. Never let yourself focus on the tragic event that took your loved one, just remember our days are numbered and we should love the people around us and always be kind to others everyday, but focus on your memories you made day after day, special times celebrated, sad times you made it together but enjoy the memories, nothing can take them but never ever just focus on the one day that ended their life because they were more than that one day. Love your family, pray for them and yourself. Always hold tight to all God’s promises because that is what we need to know, even when we don’t feel like it, when we are broken and don’t know how to go on always, always remember God’s words for comfort. When I couldn’t think straight and knew I couldn’t make it when the family was to enter the room for the funeral of my sister I knew, I just knew I could not make it throught that, no way, but I held on to I KNEW GOD had me, I couldn’t think of nothing else I just had that faith and I held tight to it. When we were escorted to the room where our friends had already gathered to wait on us as we had a last private moment with my sister, we went through the door and at that moment my God gave me the greatest peace I had ever known. I didn’t expect it at all, I just did what I had to to and focused on God having me. But that peace was the greatest thing ever, I just sat with awe of God after that, I sat there in peace and awe of what he had just done for me.I didn’t pray for that but I did totally trust that he would have me, and it was better tahn anything I could imagine. Find away to just trust God, he will never leave you and he will always take care of you. Pray and pray, pray for yourself and in everything you need no matter how small you ask God for it. Pray for a special peace for your sons, a special guidence for them, people in their life that can help guide them in all the right directions and pray for God to take away anyone in their life that will lead them into bad things and trouble. Pray for God to guide and protect them everyday, every single day cover them in prayer. Life is not just the big things in life , life is all th little things we have to do daily and that is where we need God’s help. You may never know how much your prayers have saved them from being hurt or lonely, whatever they face try to cover them in their needs. Do pray for yourself and sons to be happy even though this horrible and tragic loss is with you, you keep going and let God show you some happiness. God will take care of the killer and I will pray they catch this person and let it give you peace. Don’t let this evil person rob your life, you ahave a different life to live but you know your husband wants you and your sons to be happy and safe. Lean on God and trust him. Love and prayers for you and your family.
Thank you so much.
Jessica ,I pray for comfort for you and and your sons. My husband brother was also murdered and that was 20 yrs ago ,they didn’t find the murder either. I watched a show called Shack several times I wish you would rent the movie and watch it all the way through it the end is very good. God bless you .
Thank you so much Margaret. I will watch the movie shack. I know God is in control and I trust Him. I just want to know who killed my husband that’s all. I have forgiven them and would only like to ask them why they did it, why kill him.
Kara, I’m sorry for your loss. I understand and can relate to what you’re going through. My fiancé and soulmate who was my life and greatest and truest love to ever bless my life for the past 8 yrs passed last August from a heart attack. We also had never gotten married and he had no life insurance. He was a veteran but since never got married won’t be able to get his survivor’s benefits. The VA did help me with the funeral giving him the one thing he wanted, a burial with honors. So right now am going through everything we owned and trying to figure out what to keep, give away, or sell for some extra cash. Also having to find a new home for our two dogs. So yes right now life is going to be hard and can as you said, suck but as long as have faith sooner or later you’ll get the help you need. Please believe me when I say you’re never really alone. I have found that when having my worst day and get really emotional praying is what helps me remember what told you that never really alone. I hope I have been able to help you some way by letting you know that someone else is dealing with the same issue as you. God bless you.
What an amazing God whom gives us strength when needed
I do think that despite my grief with the passing of my wife that there are those with worse tragedies of death than me. I cannot imagine losing three of my children especially to suicide. The big question WHY? arises. Was it an uncontrollable act to leave this world?. Was there an unbearable tragedy in their lives that drove them to it?
Death is so final when we cannot change or fight against it!
I grieve for your loss. I can only imagine how horrendous that is!
I am still struggling with a life without my mate of 58 years! God bless and protect you from unbearable grief!
Lou
Dear Micca.
What I wonder about is….what about the one who has may wives or husbands?
I have a friend that has been married 4 times (twice to his first wife).
Charles
Hi Charles, Let me start by saying I’ve lost 2 children and a parent and been through the divorce of my parents, and while this idea gives me the warm fuzzies, there is scripture that addresses it. Your exact same question (multiple marriages) as well as the concept of reunions in heaven with spouse/children/friends has been answered in Mark 12:18-25 by Jesus Christ himself. The Pharisees posed this question and he pretty much stated that it doesn’t matter… they were thinking in a temporal way rather than eternally. He says there are no husbands/wives/children in the resurrection (read: “heaven”) as we understand those relationships on earth.
I also feel Hebrews 12 means something totally different…the witnesses being spoken about are from Hebrews 11–they lived by faith and this is their TESTIMONY (read:WITNESS which is from the same root) recorded for us in the OT and NT. So, this passage doesn’t necessarily mean our deceased loved ones can (or want to) see us.
Even the story of the rich man and Lazarus in Luke 16 speaks of the rich man seeing heaven (Abraham’s side) from Hades, but not that he could see earthly beings (he speaks of his brothers being warned, but most scholars believe this is b/c he already knew their characters and the lives they’d led before he died).
Do I like the idea of being reunited? Yes and we WILL BE with ALL believers. Do I like the idea of loved ones being able to see me? Sometimes… but we have no biblical basis to assume they are watching. I think when we get to heaven we won’t think of our old relationships the same way we do now and that’s what Jesus was saying to the Pharisees. Now we “see partially, then we will see fully,” in the context of eternity and being fulfilled and satisfied and loved by God.
Charles, Though we will know our loved ones in heaven, we will have a different relationship than that of spouse, siblings, parent/child.
That knowledge saddens some–even me. But in heaven, everything is perfect and good.We’ll see things from a different view point than we do now. Because God is good, the way we relate to one another in heaven will be good too.
We will all be known to each other in Heaven as brothers and sisters . You say in church Brother so and so and sister so and so . This is what I think if others have opinions , please share .
I lost my husband in June 2021, we were together 40years, after he passed away I was told that our marriage was over I questioned that and told To death us do Part means marriage dissolved. I was distraught beyond words loosing my husband but I thought one day we would be together again husband and wife, so when this extra information was shared with me it has totally broken me to beyond repair.
I imagine like me on your wedding day you don’t think that your agreeing to something that is a clause to end the union of marriage, I know that my husband didn’t realise that as he like me thought what God joined even through death he would continue.
I have read so many conflicting views on Can my husband see me
Can he hear me
Does he still love me
Does he know that I love him
Does he even remember or think of me.
Who do I believe because many many quote scriptures to explain their ideas on this but it’s no help to the one grieving it causes chaos in your head, in an already fragile head.
I can’t understand why so many secrets in the Bible regarding this.
I should say both my husband and I were born again 35 years so I’m not coming from someone who hadn’t worshiped studied and followed.
I unfortunately was attacked in 2006, I have CPTSD and a memory block, and my ability to remember what I’ve read take in new information or remember much of my knowledge in the past is affected badly so these days I rely on sound teachers of the word on line to help me.
My heart breaks for all who are in my position I’m told it gets easier life returns well for me that won’t happen specifically because I lost my husband when he closed his eyes both physically and spiritually. I didn’t marry my love to end up brother and sister in heaven we are joined as one by God why did he break that join and leave a broken beyond repair heart
According to the Bible, there is no marriage in heaven. So not sure this would be a concern. I think our relationships will be more beautiful and perfect than we can imagine
As a bereaved mother awaiting my heavenly reunion with my son, I appreciate your words of wisdom and hope. I have crossed paths with many other bereaved parents, siblings, grandparents, and friends who would benefit greatly by reading your book and witnessing your faith. Many continued blessings on you and your ministry!
Micca, your Prov31 post & book giveaway comes at the perfect time! A sweet friend of mine is battling with the loss of her husband to leukemia a few months ago. I really think your book (esp. since it includes study questions!) would help her as she grieves. Thank you!
I’d love to have this book . I lost my husband of 43 years 1/16/2016 . I need to understand what I can’t understand !!! This past 3 months is real hell on this earth for me . I pray daily and nightly that God will take me now . Suicide gets you a ticket straight to hell I understand ! If not for that I wouldn’t be in this world . My world stopped when his did !
Hi Janie.I ;m so sorry for your loss. I loss my Husband Suddenly on Valentine s Day this year. We would have been 30 year s married in April. I’m with you. We are in our own private hell. But we have work to do! There’s so much to do. I’m at unwin41@bigpond.com if you’d like to drop a line. I hope you can. CATHX
I too feel the same , my husband died 2 monthes ago , it would’ve bee. Out 30th wedding anniversary two days after his funeral
I feel I can not go on without him , the only thing that keeps me going is the thiught we maybe reunited on day , he wasn’t a strong believer in God and therefore I worry we will not be reunited , I miss him so much that my life without him means nothing , The grief is endless some one please help me LM
Oh I feel the same way. I dont want to commit suicide and go to hell but being here without my husband is almost unbearable.
My brother had cancer and when the machines were ordered to keep him alive he committed suicide. All these children who are committing suicide because of being bullied. I don’t believe all these hopeless people are in shell. If you commit a crime and kill yourself because your going to get caught…that’s another story. I lost the love of my life 14 days ago. I’m on medication but I know life will never be the same and I will never be happy. I’m just waiting to die. I know beyond a shadow of doubt that I will commit suicide at some point. I have no reason to live. I hate every morning that I wake up.
I feel the same
I feel the same
Don’t say that when people on here have lost loved ones to suicide. Not true.
Lost my precious husband March 20-2018. Had bypass surgery, went good. But when I wasn’t there to watch him, he fell out of bed. Was told federal law said
couldn’t leave all bed rails up, called restraint. He also had restless leg syndrome. So he fell out bed, several times. Then I started paying someone to sit with, when I couldn’t be there. Too late, one infection after another. Lost 45 pads. And lost his life. My life is empty. We were married 48 yrs. seems I’d been satisfied, 71yrs. old. I’m just waiting to go, to be with him.
I have a baby girl and a baby boy who are now safe in the arms of Jesus. Although they passed shortly after birth, they were and still are deep in my heart. It has been many years ago, but I have never forgotten holding them one last time and still can feel them in my arms. I have often wondered what they would be like today. But I know they were special for God called them home. But it still hurts.
What a timely devotion Micca. I lost my husband who was 44 years old, 7 years ago. We have just adopted our second child and then Daddy got really sick and battled cancer for two years. He was an incredible man and I hurt at times because they, my 2 children, never really got to know their wonderful Daddy. But we remember him through stories and pictures and because God brought our son to us all the way from Guatemala, and he is so much like his forever Daddy. We miss him terribly and I pray that he sees his beautiful children here on earth and the beautiful hearts and spirits they have. I miss him so, thank you for encouragement and hope today.
Blessings,
Karen g
Yes, I know many who could benefit from reading your book, An Untroubled Heart, and I would like to be entered to win. Thank you! God bless you!
Thank you for sharing these words of encouragement and for sharing God’s truth. Your story has brought me to tears. I am so glad that you have chosen to serve God and bring this message of hope to others who are grieving. Thank you! I would be honoured to win a copy of your book!!
I too have wondered if our loved ones that are “home” can see us….it is comforting to think about them cheering us on in this life, to run the race and meet them in the winner’s circle! Thank you, Micca, for sharing…
Your message today brings comfort to my heart.
Just as you find references in the Bible that we will be reunited with our loved ones and that they are cheering us on, looking down on us; I have felt my father warmly guiding me even today. It has been 40 years since his passing when I was a teenager.
Grateful for your sharing.
I have been slogging through my grief now for almost 13 months. Losing my husband has been the hardest thing I could ever imagine. I keep praying that the good days will start stacking up against the bad days. It was so comforting to know that I am not the only one that has done crazy stuff since he died.I am praying that I can get out of Whyville and accept my new normal.
Dear Patricia,
I lost my dear husband 6 months ago, we had been married for 55 years. I depended on him for everything. I thought I was going to lose my mind, I cried every day and was heart broken. I prayed to God as I always do to lead me and help me get through this, I wanted God to take me home but he wasn’t ready for me yet. As I think about this God is good, and when he is ready for us he will call us, we all have a number. I found my husband dead in his favorite chair, but he was peaceful and had no pain. How many people go like this? I am so thankful that he didn’t suffer and he is with God.. Patricia, god will help you, he has helped me in so many ways and is making me stronger. Get involved with helping people that are less fortunate then we are, help the needy and the elderly. I would love to hear from you.
Hi Patricia
I read your email and since my husband died 6 months ago I have been like you. I feel nothing to live for anymore and I cry almost every day and live in a new town and I do not know anyone here as yet, I will say it is so lonely and I ask God what is the plan for me now. What can I do without having a husband so many years. I:just live day by day with no interest in life at all. A friend kike you would be nice to have, My email address is plumpisme3@gmail.com. I would love to hear from you sometime
.My Name is Linda
Thank you
I loved the fact that you can open your heart to tell your story. I lost my dad 9years ago. I still miss him. My dad was I mighty man of God and when he fell ill with High blood pressure and a few other illnesses, my heart bled. The once energetic, athletic, fun loving man was bedridden. I used to phone my dad everyday from work at 10:am in the morning. My mom still worked half days and she would station him right next to the phone with a sandwich, flask of tea on the table next to the phone. He would answer right away. I would be speaking most of the time, about my husband, boys and my life. He was always concerned about the state of my heart and that of my family with regard to Christ. A year after he died, I still felt compelled to phone at 10am during my tea break for a touch base talk even if it was only for ten minutes. Those times are the things I missed most. I never ever had to pretend with my dad. He always knew that I needed his perspective, a word of encouragement or a word of caution.
Mica, I have not read anything by you until this am. I cried. Your past experience is sad but the glory of God shines through you. I love how He is using you to help others. My request for your book is for my sil, Kendra. I love her deeply. We lost John (her husband), my husband’s brother to suicide last Feb. This was after multiple times of trying. She was in the process of divorcing him to protect their assets but she never told family the reason why. This past July her son Kyle committed suicide. I request this book for her since the holidays are fast approaching. I pray for the peace of God to be in her heart & mind. In Him, Susie Roth
Knowing someone else shares the same questions comforts your heart and eases your mind. My grandmother became sick with cancer the summer between my freshman and sophomore years in college. She lived with my family and so I quit my summer job to help care for her during the week when most of my family was at work. It was my first experience of death upclose and the first time I truly remember feeling God’s presence helping the both of us. Its been 11 years since she went to be with Jesus and some times I still feel her around. When I do I usually respond with asking God to send her a message and remind myself I’ll see her again soon. Until then I hope when I get to heaven I’ll discover she was getting my messages all along and we can both sing in our new (and much prettier) heavenly voices (and I hope God doesn’t mind oldies). So thankful to have a God who loves us to send His Son so that we may be able to live forever in His presence with our loved ones by our side.
I receive the daily devotional from Proverbs 31. This morning’s was Reunited written by you, Micca. Thank you for sharing yourself, your pain, your walk. It has been 4 years, 2 months and 8 days since my husband has gone home to Jesus. Within the first 3 months of his passing, someone trying to be helpful reminded me the word says we will not be married in heaven. Yes, we would know each other but my husband would no longer be my husband. Talk about losing all hope. As I have been limping along, the pain has lessened. Your messages are restoring the hope that has long been missing from my life. May the Lord bless you and keep you, May the Lord shine his face upon and be gracious to you and give you peace.
I am thankful for His assurance that I’ll see my sister, dad, grandparents, and other loved ones again one day!
Thanks for the chance to win your book.
My dad passed away unexpectedly and suddenly close to a month ago on 10/8/13 at the age of 56. My mom, my sister, and I are still in disbelief that this could all be real. I saw your Proverbs 31 devotion in my email this morning and it spoke directly to my heart. I followed the link here to your blog and again, the very first thing I read, “Can My Loved One See Me From Heaven?” is exactly what I was thinking of as I woke up super early (sleep isn’t consistent right now). During my early morning cry, which then turned into prayer, I had even asked God to tell my Dad I loved and missed him. Crazy how your words in this post put up today, speak to the very things I was thinking today.
I would love to enter this giveaway to send your book to my mom. She is in so much pain, feels lost as to what to do next, and misses terribly the man she’s loved deeply for close to 40 years.
Thank you for your blog today–so wonderful to hear how God ministered to your grieving heart and reminded you that it’s not goodbye but “until we meet again”. I would love to share your book with a friend who recently lost her husband.
Thank you and God Bless you!
What an encouraging reminder for us. Thank you for bringing the fact we will see our loved ones again to the forefront of our minds.
Thank you for your encouraging. Words! I lost the love of my life two years age dec 9th. And it still feels soo unreal? He was a pastor. And former missionaries. We were together for fifty years! We had no regrets but the sadness and homesickness. Hits me sometimes. That it seems like yesterday! The Lord has been my sweet Shepherd, Comforter. And blessed me in soooo many ways. We were married for 47 years. So to me it is natural that I would miss him so much! I am so blessed knowing that we will be together. Again to spend eternity with Jesus!
Micca,
I want to begin by saying you are a talented writer and such a blessing. I’ve read your work on Proverbs 31 many times, but your Encouragement for Today (11/6/13) is what brought me to your blog. While reading P31 today I thought, wow this woman gets me. She knows exactly what it’s like to ache for your husband in every way then deal with the mystery and questions of one day seeing him again. That is something that has weighed very heavy on me. I’m certain my sweet Donald is in heaven and I plan on joining him there. Just yesterday I was driving and almost wrecked looking at a man in another vehicle that very much resembled Donald from a distance. I see the same make and model of his vehicle all the time, several times a day now.
When Donald went to be with the Lord (8/10/13), my fell world fell apart. I was certain that I would be right behind him; that’s just how broken I was. The pain is still so new and it remains the deepest hurt I’ve ever felt on a daily basis, BUT God has and will continue to love me and carry me through it. The Lord has shown me so many things about myself and I had to stop magnifying Donald being gone (which is so very hard) and start magnifying the Lord and his goodness and how I can bring glory to his name.
I’ve been rambling, but I came here to say Thank you Micca. Your words not only touched me, but you helped me tremendously today, and I’m certain I am not the only one. Not only on P31, but here on your blog as well. The Lord is using you in a beautiful way. One day I hope to be a blessing to widows in such a way as well. God bless you!
Keleigh,
Thanks for sharing your story. It’s not yet been a week since my darling love of my life has gone home to glory to be with God. It’s so hard, knowing that one day I’ll see him in heaven with God is what makes it bearable. Sometimes had to get past missing him though.
God bless and comfort each of you!
I lost my husband after 48 years of marriage, and several years of his suffering
after losing his leg to diabetes. I had never thought of him watching from heaven.He has been gone from here for three years. Thank you for your encouraging
Words. Sue
Micca,
Thank you for your beautiful reminder of our great meeting with our loved ones. I lost my mom 13 years ago and my daddy 5 years ago the 9th of this month, and although I know all to well where they are, and that I will see them again one day sometimes the pain of loss is overwhelming. I have two beautiful daughter’s however they have turned from God and me completely. I pray constantly for their salvation. Again thank you for each year at this time I find it very difficult.
I would love to have a copy of this book for my friend and neighbor who has just lost her husband. I know she would be touched by it. The devotion that was on Encouragement for Today. 1Thess 4:17. Was / is so much like her .
After 47 years of marriage, my mom lost my dad instantly
With no warning a yr ago. She was standing beside him when he died.
This is the hardest thing my family has ever gone through.
I would love to give this book to my mom to comfort her.
I have watched my mom at age 67 not only loose her soulmate
but her best friend.
Thank you, Micca, for your words of encouragement today. I, too, lost a husband suddenly and unexpectedly and way too soon. I spent several weeks, if not months, in a state of shock hardly able to think. Because of my upbringing, I knew God was the only one I could depend on to get me through. One of the hardest things I had to leave with God was the thought that Gary and I were supposed to grow old together. What was I to do with that dream now? God seemed to speak to my spirit, telling me that we may not grow old together in the way I was thinking, but that we will be together forever in eternity, which goes way past old! So now, after giving up my dream of earthly togetherness, my dream now is more focused on heavenly togetherness.
Please help me. Im so lost. My husband just died last night. I feel as though I cant go on. Without him here on earth with me. I cant sleep. I keep seeing him in my dreams. Im so crushed. Please. Call me. 1-907-242-0734. Help me. Im so depressed.
I am so sorry for your loss, I also lost my husband on April 16 2015. I hope you are at peace because i am searching for it. I miss him so much I feel empty. has a year changed you? I pray for peace for the both of us.
Ava, I’m so sorry for the loss of your husband. There is hope, peace, and healing. Right now my ebook is FREE! The title is, “An Untroubled Heart. In this book, I share my story and God’s remedy for overcoming fear and grief. I believe my book would bless you, comfort you, and lead you toward brighter days. You can get it today only at http://www.faithgateway.com/keeping-joy
I’m praying for you, friend. Micca
In the last two months, we have had two amazing, Godly women in our church lose their wonderful, Godly husbands. They have left 5 children under the age of 20 between them. I would like to read this book and then pass it on so it can be a blessing to these women. I wish they could meet you. God bless you on your journey:) So sorry for your loss. It is living testemonies such as yourself that give us a first hand reminder that God is real and his mercy and grace never fail.
I read the devotion for Proverbs 31 ministries today about the loss of you husband, which lead me to your website. My aunt list her husband of 44 years last night. It amazes me, although it shouldn’t, how God speaks to us and how perfect his timing is. I know she is hurting right now and we are praying for her comfort and peace. He was a believer as is my aunt and so they will be together again.
My grandmother passed away almost two years ago, and I miss her terribly – the loss is still fresh. She was the biggest Christian influence in my life, and is what drew me into the arms of Christ. I would love to read your book!
Thank you for your message today. I lost my husband almost 4 years ago and I also wonder if he can look down and see me. There are times I hope he can’t as he wouldn’t want to see me in the grief I am in. I still miss him so badly and want to see him again. I know I will but don’t know when, only God knows that. It is hard with the holidays coming up and so many family gatherings. I would love to have a copy of your book. Thanks again.
My dad passed last year, and we send up balloons. Thanks, would love to read your book.
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I am so looking forward to that day!
Dear Micca,
I so love to hear stories of how God rescues us in the many situations of life and it thrills my heart to know that you have found God to be everything when life seemed so hopeless and lonely. He is a faithful God who is forever trustworthy. Thank you for your heart’s devotion to our Lord and your encouraging words. Our journey here on earth can be filled with sadness, broken relationships, misunderstandings, and indeed the enemy of our souls would want to trip us up and distract us from running with patience the race that is before us. BUT, as you said, “a great crowd of witnesses surrounding us” and the hope of one day being in the very presence of Jesus. Thank you Micca for a beautiful reminder today of our great hope in Christ.
Love – Barbie
My brother died in March of 2015 and my mom died Oct 26th 2015 and my heart is so heavy it’s hard to breath from their lost my dad has been gone for 34 yrs and it feel like today
This is perfect timing! My grandmother passed away yesterday and my mom and daughter are struggling right now. Please keep us in your prayers. God bless you. I love reading your posts every day they’re very encouraging.
You are a beautiful, amazing and inspiring woman! The story you have shared about your life with Porter was one of the most honest and humbling things I have ever read. I have never experienced as loss as tremendous as yours- and I hope, that if I ever do, I will be as strong as you are! Thank you for you inspiration, Micca!
Micca – thank you for your words of wisdom! A friend of mine died this past weekend after a 2 year battle with cancer. I am going to use some of your thoughts in the card that I share with her family.
I lost my sister just over 2 weeks ago. She had been like a mother to me and also was my best friend. I know she is in heaven and I will see her again but it is really hard not talking to her every day. Thank you for your encouraging words.
I lost my Grandma a week before my birthday this past June. And needless to say, I have been lost without her ever since. Most people don’t understand the special bond I had with my Grandma. She is the first major family death I have endured and it’s taking its toll on me. She was my best friend. There wasn’t a day that went by I didn’t spend time with her for our evening meals and TV shows. I am so lost in the evenings that I drive around aimlessly looking for somewhere to go, looking for something to busy my mind and myself. More often than not I find myself at the cemetery. I may not always get out of my car since the weather here is getting cold, but I feel safe here. Is it because I see her grave? I don’t know. All I know is that I am lost and empty without her.
Thank you so much for this wonderful devotional! I lost three parents in the space of a year. At times I am not even sure who I am grieving for. Thank you for sharing your story and God’s truths today. I
My grandmother passed away when I was in high school. It has always comforted me knowing that she is in heaven and watching over me.
thank you for sharing these insights, such a blessing.
Micca,
Bless you for writing this. I lost my husband, Tom, of 31 yrs. in January of this year. Be had been battling cancer on and off for 20 yrs. The COPD was the actual cause of death, but the cancer of lung, throat, neck, mouth and tongue did a horrible disablement to him in the last 2 1/2 years. This tongue was 3/4 removed and he was on a feeding tube. As you explain your husband, mine too was very handsome. People remember him, not me, cause of his looks, warmth …that smile. I have only returned to work about 3 mths ago…not coming yet every day. The folks at work, do not understand my grief and tell me just to get on with my life….but all I do is thing of Tom and our plans. We were motorcycle riders and I cannot look at a motorcycle with a white haired man w/o hoping is this Tom. I too followed a man on a m/c for miles just knowing somehow it was Tom. Oh what a grief. Your message is very inspiring. Tom was 73 yrs old very full of life and amibition even after all he suffered with Cancer. I am only 60…but it was just me and him…no children…my sister is my only comfort..friends seem to disappear when grief is around…my church was held me up…bless them.
Thank you again for this message.
Thank you for this message today. I have a dear friend who lost her mom last year. She still struggles today with the loss and her feelings about it. I am hoping that by sharing todays message with her, that she, her dad and brother, might find some comfort. Thank you!
This sounds like a wonderful book, I would love to share with a friend who is struggling.
My aunt lost her husband 1 month ago and is not dealing with this very well. He was her life companion and friend. Their 2 children are adults and no longer live at home. The lonely times are difficult for her. I am sure that your book would be inspirational in helping her to come to terms with her loss. Find some encouragement to go forward on a journey without him. God bless.
I have lost all my relatives in the last seven years. My husband and little boy are all I have left. It is comforting to know that those of us left can comfort each other.
I would like to thank you for the words you have today. I have lost 2 family members and a very, very good friend in the last year. I sometimes feel lost and then remember that God has taken care of them and that gives me some sort of hope.
I am crying tears of joy from reading your Proverbs 31 devotional this morning. God keeps providing for me even in my grief and although I have been doing okay in the last month since loosing my father November 16, 2012 this morning was tough driving to work. I prayed and sung to my Donnie McClurkin CD searching for God’s power in my weakness. Then I come I read the devotional and God still offers His grace and letting me know that He is in control but loves me so much. Thank you God and Micca. I miss my dad immensley but I know he is with our Lord Jesus Christ. See you later….
Micca, thank you for a powerful devotion today and sharing your story. My girlfriend, Kris, lost her husband completely unexpectedly this August due to a heart attack, just 3 months after celebrating 5 years of being cancer free. Kris’ faith is such a witness to me and the others around her as she has managed to carry on and shepherd her 3 beautiful children along this new path. I know she has dark days of despair and I am going to share your devotion with her today.
My husband passed away July 28, 2013 after a 13 month struggle with cancer. I miss him terrribly, but know that he is with our Lord. He was a strong man of God and lived his faith everyday. Thank you for your words of encouragement today.
My grandma passed away last week and my brother is having a really hard time. I would love to read your book and share with him. My grandma was such a strong Christian influence on our lives, but my brother is not saved! He has been going to church with me. Please pray for him. Thanks!
I’ve often wondered if my grandparents can see me. I learned about Jesus at an early age from my Mamaw. She used to sing to me and tell me Bible stories while I helped her shell peas. That is one of my fondest memories. She died from cancer when I was had just graduated high school. That was 37 yrs. ago. (Yes, I know I’m telling my age:). I still miss her and all my grandparents and you are such an encouragement, reminding me that I will be able to see them again one day. What a wonderful time that will be, meeting Jesus and seeing my family once again!
Thank you for being courageous enough to share your grief.
This struck a chord with me as I thought about my grandmother, who is safe in the arms of Jesus. She passed on three years ago last month but the ache of knowing that I will not see her again this side of heaven still runs deep at times. On the third anniversary of her death (October 21st) I was at work (just as I am now) and felt her near me (as I do now), through food cravings oddly enough. I began wanting things that she and I used to make together and it wasn’t just wanting the food, it was wanting the camaraderie, the love and the feelings a little girl in awe of her grandmother has (I’m almost 29 but the memories were the ones I cherish from my childhood). It’s comforting and a blessing to know that she may very well be a member of the cloud of witnesses that surround me. Both of my grandmothers probably are, actually. Thank you Micca! Between reading about your husband’s death and God’s comforting to you during that time and thinking about my own loved ones who have passed on, I’m having a hard time keeping it together! 🙂 That’s not a bad thing though!
Oh Micca, you hit the nail on the head for me. My dad passed November 16, 2009 and I will be getting ready to celebrate his passing. I always say to God please tell dad that I miss him and love him. It does give the comfort to go on. I had regret when he passed. I did not tell him I loved him enough and was not there when it happened. I come back knowing that he went peacefully so this gives me so much encouragement to know that he is in Heaven waiting on me and my mom. Thank you so much for posting this one today.
Hi Micca! I would love to win this book.I lost my Daddy in June.It was unexpected and he died in my arms.My heart is broken its been 5months and the hurt just keeps getting worse.I know my heavenly father is carrying me because Im still going in life.I love Jesus with all my heart and Im relying on him.I havent read anything on grief so maybe this will be a step to healing I know the pain will never go away but this book could help me.Thank you and GOD Bless You!
My 17 year old son Levi died almost a year ago. His 18th Birthday is this Saturday the 9th of November & my 50th Birthday is the next day the 10th. His was my greatest birthday present ever. I was a Christian I hope I still am? I am scared & angry & I yell at God. How come since you can do anything God you did not save my son & bring him home to us? I hope to reconcile my relationship with God someday & stop being angry. It has almost been a year since Levi died 11/28/12 was the day of his passing. I have a great grief counselor but no peace. Thank you & to all of you who posted comments & lost someone special I am so sorry.
Setting aside the fact I would love to receive this book I was going to comment any way . I agree whole heartedly that our loved ones may very well see and know what is happening here as I agree that they now see as they were seen and they are not looking at all the unknowns as we are. They can see and know that first hand that the end is taken care of and we will be ok. I’ve lost a number of loved ones. The most recent and dearest to me in the last 5 years. My mom died in October 2008 and then two months later in Decemeber my 22 year old son died. I have given lots of thought to my loved ones in heaven and, well I too, have asked for messages to be sent to them . I asked one day while praying and studying Gods word, and believe me or not, I know God spoke to my heart and said, ” I don’t need to he already knows”. The loss of my son has been harder than losing my mom . I thank God for that word spoken to this broken heart . He is awesome and nothing , not any thing is impossible with HIM! Amen
Perfect timing as I lost my Father this month 9 yrs ago and it’s still a tough time for me. Thank you so much for this giveaway. I would love if you put my name in the drawing. Blessings, Rebecca
Micca, I just recently had a friend of mine commit suicide. She knew Jesus and I am at peace, but I know of the perfect person who would find comfort in this book. Thank you so much for your encouragement!
I often think of this too! My first husband died 9 years ago and my 2 daughter lost their daddy. I always hope that he is looking down and can see what is going on in their lives. Thanks for the chance to win your book!
Thanks Mica for your consoling words today, as I feel the loss of my husband every single day. I “talk” to him on my morning walks each day as it makes me continue to feel connected to him in many ways. I know he is happy and out of pain and I find comfort in knowing that – and I will always love and miss him until that day we are reunited again at the feet of Jesus. Your words of encouragement are so appreciated today just knowing we all are not alone .
God bless you and your ministry.
Micca, Thank you for sharing your story and offering insight and scripture to help those of us still grieving. I had never heard of you, your blog or your book until this morning when a friend forwarded me your “encouragement for today” email. It spoke to me. I suddenly and unexpectedly lost my husband 4 weeks ago in a car accident. Although we had 19 wonderful years together, we were looking forward to many more. Family and friends are keeping me from being alone, but I miss him terribly and everything in life just seems so sad and insignificant right now. I am already wondering some of the things you have wondered, and am seeking answers and peace through my faith in Jesus. I know that I will survive and that the Lord has a plan for my future, but it is helpful to learn of others’ experiences and how they learned to cope and enjoy life again. God bless you.
It’s good to know we are not alone in this. My husband passed away suddenly 11 years ago and I became a single Mum of 4 kids, the youngest two were almost 5. Some days it just takes something from out of the blue to bring everything flooding back, but knowing we will see him again one day is so comforting. Thanks for sharing.
How encouraging! Would love to win the book to give to a friend!
I, too, have the hope of seeing my dad someday. He past away last December, and sometimes it’s still hard for us, but we know that we’ll see him again.
Your recent posts have really helped me walk through a difficult time. My husband’s grandmother passed away last month and yesterday I recieved new mygrandfather has been given days. Although both of these sweet people will be waiting on my when I get to go home, it is still a ahrd road to walk. THank you for sharing you life with me.
So sorry for your loss! Thank you for sharing your story and for opening up your heart to us. Thank you for reminding us of this amazing truth!
I have had 2 family members die in the past year so I am sure that your book would be helpful and comforting to me.
Thanks so much for your encouragement. My husband went to heaven unexpectedly less than three months ago after being in the hospital for a routine procedure that ended in some major complications. I would love to win your book. I think it would be a great help to me at this time.
Micca,
Thank you for sharing today! Our family lost a dear man two weeks ago to Leukemia. He was my cousin, and a friend, son, twin brother, confidant, soldier, and cousin to so many others. Most of all he was a wonderful and loving husband to his wife of 25 years. My heart really aches for her the most. I know what a blessing it is to find someone you ‘fit together with’ so much – and they were IT! She would receive the book as a gift from me. I think I’ll just buy it for her anyway.
If you are reading posts to decide who should get the free copy, please do not miss the gal at 5:45am today – Patricia Heard-Hopson. You can ‘hear’ the pain she is going through. I’m not saying the rest of us aren’t feeling the pain of loss however.
Thank you again,
Kelly
I find his words so comforting but all you have to do is believe in the Lord right.I ask this because all my life my parents where sinners and never went to church They never exposed me to a relationship with Christ I long to see my mother again She died when I was 20 and the grief was almost too much for me but I didn’t believe in Jesus So there was no hope.I love the Lord with all my heart now and cling to Him always
Just before Christmas, Dec. 23, 2012, I lost my brother who had just turned 70 years old. He was hit by a car while crossing the street. I found myself helping to plan his funeral. I even composed a poem and spoke to his friends and my family about the hope of eternity for him. I am sure your book would bring me closure to my sense of unease and clear my vision to view death as entrance to the glorious presence of the Lord.
My neighbor and friend lost her husband 2 years ago. With sadness he left behind a son also. With never being in a situation like that all we could do was just be there for her and her son. Over these past 2 years I have been at a loss for words and I don’t know what exactly to do. We have opened our home to her son who lives with us almost on a daily basis. She has refused Christian encouragement and started hanging out with a group of people who are tearing her down instead of lifting her up. I have tried to get her in Bible Studies and offered to just do them with her if she felt uncomfortable in a group. She has completely lost her confidence and self control and she is spiraling out of control. Hopefully through this book, She can learn some insight of what is causing the loneliness ( i know the answer, but she refuses to listen) and self doubt. I want her to know that it is okay, that there are people who have been where she is at and that she is not alone. That Jesus is our comforter. I haven’t given up on her but I can’t force her to church or Bible Studies, but she does love to read. Thank you so much for sharing your story! God can turn any situation in our lives for the good.
I am thinking of a friend that lost her husband tragically one year ago. She often expresses how much she misses him on her Facebook page. I would love to give her your book.
Let us all with our loved ones here on earth be sure to show them love daily!
Thank you for sharing your experience, it is much like my own…even down to the red truck! I believe we will see our loved ones in heaven…however, scripture states there is no marriage in heaven and gender seems to be eliminated, also. We are to be like the angels…and yet children of God. Can you give me further insight to hold my troubled heart?
Thank you
The book, Heaven, by Randy Alcorn is a big help in answering questions on heaven with Scripture to back up his conclusions. It has been a comfort to me in dealing with my grief since losing my husband of 50 years, three months ago.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Tricia. 50 years of marriage! What a beautiful testimony! Thank you for sharing the book that brought comfot to you. God bless!
It’s good to be reminded that they are no longer troubled…not even by our behavior or situations.
Oh my, Micca this is so encouraging!
While I’ve often wondered about this I hadn’t known really what to think. But, having two babies in Heaven whom I lost to miscarriages (one in 2010 and one just this year in 2013) I’ve found myself thinking more of Heaven. I think more about what it’s like, what my babies are doing, can they see Mommy? Do they know Mommy loves them?
In discussing this one time with a fellow “baby loss mom”, my friend revealed that she hoped her baby didn’t see her here on Earth. She worried that he’d be sad seeing all of the pain that we go through. I found myself wondering about that…would it really be sad for our loved ones in Heaven if they saw us and what we go through? Would it be upsetting to them?
I understand we won’t have all of the answers and that’s okay. But I’m glad God sends us so many things to comfort us, including books like yours which help us to remember what we so often lose in the clutter of our daily lives.
Thank for your message. I too have many questions about heaven, but I have grown to have a great longing to go home to see my Savior and my precious grandson who would be three years old this December. He was born and the drs worked on him for almost 2 hours but then let him go to Jesus’s arms. Nothing in this life prepares you for witnessing such raw grief from your daughter and nothing can prepare to hold your grandson’s lifeless body. We all have been forever changed.
I have often wondered if my Dad can see me from heaven. It’s comforting to know that someday I will see him again.
I keep trusting in two things: God knows what is best for me and God always keeps His promises. Until the day of His return, I am leaning on His everlasting arms!
I often wonder if my loved ones can see me. I ask God all the time to tell them I love them & miss them. When something awesome happens, I ask Him to tell them. I believe he does. When my mom passed away, I was so distraught that I couldn’t stop crying or being sad. My daughter read me a scripture & I thought I would remember so I didn’t write it down, but I don’t. The premise of it was if you remain sad God can’t allow grandma to see you. So I started to be happy & God has shown me so many ways that my mom is with me. If anyone knows that scripture I would appreciate it. thanks
While would like this for myself, would give to my mom (might read it first). Last year my Granddad, step Dad, & Grandmother all went Home in less than 8 months. It has been especially hard on my mom since she was taking care of them.
Wish I could give each and every suicide loss family this book. Its a heavy burden to carry such great loss . Isaiah 61 reminds me that a garment of salvation & hope can grow out of such a valley. I would love to win this book…for such a “time & season ” as this.
Thank you for sharing beautiful words of encouragement.
Thanks you for sharing your story and life in this blog. I would love to get a copy of your book to learn more. Not many people talk about what people in Heaven can see of us on Earth so your information is comforting to me.
Thank you Micca for this encouragement on a day when I really needed some 🙁
Blessings xox
Micca, my best friend lost her 24 year old daughter last week and she has so many questions I would love to give this book to her. She has been raising her daughters two babies and is a foster parent and has adopted 7 children the who passed away was her first adopted daughter.
Loved your words of encouragement Micca made me feel a lot better about that question that I struggle with a lot. I’d love to win a copy of your book, cause I am on a fixed income, but if I don’t, I think I’ll ask for it for Christmas this year..Thanks so much.
Jackie
I got a lady friend whose fiancé passed away before their marriage. He died in an accident 10 years ago. Her fiancé has always wanted her to be a Christian before marriage. She is now a Christian but not married because of her unforgettable love for him. She hope to see him one day and I hope this book will encourage her.
Micca, my husband Jeffrey of six years, three months, and 28 days went home to be with Jesus on October 5th, 2013. He valiantly battled a very rare cancer, all while praising God through it all. I served as wife and caregiver for the last ten months. My husband was a true warrior for God, being persecuted and sacrificial for the Kingdom. My husband showed us how to live for God, and then he showed us how to die for God!
Yes, my husband is free with no more pain, skipping down the streets of gold and walking in the Garden with Jesus. And after walking with him, suffering with him day by day for the last year, I wouldn’t want him to come back here. Especially since he has seen and heard and tasted all things in heaven, particularly the fullness of God. But, I am here, trying to deal and overcome the physical, emotional, and spiritual aftermath from the greatest battle of my life. I am saying, “I’m here God, what’s next for me?” It’s been a month now. I wonder if my husband is watching over me, guiding me and looking out for me? I really want that to be true.
Please pray for me. Please pray for my husband’s family. I would like to enter to win your book. I think your book would be right on target for me. God bless you!
Jeffrey Jacob Rentfro
Jeff went home to be with Jesus on Saturday morning, October 5, 2013.
Deep passion and genuine love for God. Unshakeable faith. A true leader. Wildly fascinating. Known for his humor. Incredible story teller. Crazy scary smart. Steadfast and unwavering. Ridiculously captivating. The bravest, strongest, and most valiant person I know. Dedicated to loving me unconditionally.
This is the man we know. This is the husband I love. Six years, three months, and 28 days of marriage. This is the gift God loaned us for 34 unforgettable years.
Thank you, my love, for what you gave me. Thank you for what you gave the world. You changed my life forever. I love you, ~Melissa
Thank you for the words of encouragement. My mother passed away in August of this year and I have been struggling so much with her not being here. I know I will see her again one day but miss her so much. Thanks again for the encouraging words.
I’ve tho’t some of the same things of my little brother Jimmy who was killed at 16 yrs young in 1977..does he know I named my oldest son after him..does he watch over my children I now have. But my most heartening wish is that my precious son Benji who was killed tragically 6-11-11 is now walking with him..the uncle he never got a chance to even meet. I was going thru a divorce the month before my Benji was killed and losing him just doesn’t compare to any heartache a mother can ever go thru. Thank you too for your encouraging words <3
I lost my 19 yr old granddaughter nov 9th 2013 by a drunk driver. The drunk survive, there haven’t been a arrest. I just can’t understand. My granddaughter was so special, she loved the lord she could sing like a angel. it hurts so bad how god let this happen my heart is broken
I feel cheated she had not even begin
Living. There isn’t words
For this.if you lose your husband your a widow you lose your
Wife your a widower, what word is it for losing a child? Its not right.
Sweet Debra,
I want you to know that God’s heart is broken over the death of this child as much or more than you. He loves this child and he loves you. It may feel like that isn’t truth right now but feelings tend to lie to us. We blame God. I know. I’ve been there. What I learned was this. God didn’t create sickness and death. These things are part of our fallen world. When children die, God grieves and he makes this promise. “I’ll work all things together for good.” Romans 8:28. I know it’s hard to see the good in this moment. Take time to grieve. Let God comfort you. Let Him be your peace. Allow God to heal your broken heart. Don’t run from God, but run to God. I’m praying for you and your family. Blessings, Micca
Praise the lord,
Hi i am Justin from India.I am 21 years old.I am from a spiritual christian family.I am very blessed since i was born.In my life my mom was everything to me.She taught me about Jesus,she taught me to pray,she taught me to prefer God than Humans during my hard times.She used to feel GOD’S presence in her often.She used to me more Spiritual,she spends her free times on prayer.Moreover,she used to be more active,genius,punctual,positive think,etc so on.I love my mom ever and ever.She is my best friend,mentor,etc.Happy moments are those which i spent with her.I cant express my love towards my mom just through words.But unfortunately I lost her before 2 months after a horrible struggle from cancer.She is 50 years old.I am totally broken.No words to express my feeling of sorrow and pain i have.Physical absence of my mom kills me ever second.Really it stabs my broken heart again and again.I need my mom,i love her so much.I dont know how to backup myself.I still live only because of JESUS CHRIST and his words(suicide is a sin).Please pray for me and my family.And please give you valuable encouraging replies.Thank you all.Praise be to GOD
Dear Justin,
I’m sorry to hear about your mom. I can hear your pain in your words. You’re grieving and that’s what you need to do. It’s okay to cry and feel the emotions you’re experiencing. It sounds like you were very close to your mom and shared a lot together. Hold on to those memories and know that you will one day be reunited.
Lord, I pray that you will blanket Justin in comfort today. Wrap him in your Presence. Easy his pain with your abiding love. Lord, we know that you did not create cancer. Sickness is due to our fallen world. Yet you in all of your grace and mercy has promised to bring good out of bad situations. Help Justin to hold onto your promises. Strengthen him with power from above. And let no weapon formed against him prosper. Protect him from the evil one. Make yourself real to him in this most difficult time. A-men
Hi….i just lost my dad 3 weeks back…..he was my hero….n always showed us the brighter side of everything….i still live a part of him in me….thanks for your words of assurance…..
Natasha, I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s hard losing a parent–especially when they’re our hero. Sounds like you had an amazing dad!
My dear friend lost her daughter to cancer and is now raising her granddaughter. Both of them are struggling with the loss. I think this blog will help them deal with their feelings and all of their emotions. Please- I’d appreciate any advice for my dear friend and her granddaughter.
Shani, Thank you for being a caring friend. Because you are, you are already helping.
when I lost my spouse, it was my friends that helped me through the grief and loneliness. At first, they sat with me–sometimes all night. They allowed me to cry and tell them all about Porter’s life. (People fear bringing up the dead, but we want to talk about our loved ones! Our greatest fear is that they will be forgotten.) Someone encouraged me to write my loved one a letter and say all the things I wanted to say but didn’t. I know two children who lost their mother wrote letters and read them out loud at her funeral. Email or text them a bible verse or short prayer.
The most practical help I received was when someone took me to lunch, did my laundry, brought me grocery’s, cut my grass, etc… I didn’t have to worry about doing those things especially when I didn’t feel like it.
Again, thank you for being a caring friend. I’m praying for you as you minister to them, and I’m praying for God to blanket them with comfort and peace at this time. Micca
Hello my name is Lacee and I goto Ashbrook high school in gastonia North Carolina and I am a senior this year, my grandfather passed away with cancer on January 19 2012 and before he died he always had said he wanted to stay alive long enough to see me graduate and that didn’t happen the way he wanted. He wanted to write me a letter for when I graduate and he got so sick he totally forgot about it. Will he be able to watch me graduate? It’s a really big deal to me. I’m actually pinning his picture to my gown on graduation day. I would really appreciate it if you could help me feel relieved about the situation. Thank you.
Dear Lacee, I’m so sorry to read about the loss of your grandfather. I love that you’re pinning his picture to your gown. But picture or no picture know that you can take your grandfather with you in your heart anywhere you go. That’s how we keep our loved ones memories alive.
The bible doesn’t say much about what those in heaven can and can’t see. But there are verses that hint that they do. This I know for sure. Your grandfather loves you and wants the best for you. He wants you to enjoy your graduation and celebrate all you’ve achieved. Though he’s in heaven, he is not sad. The bible tells us there are no tears or pain in heaven. Whatever awaits us in heaven is good because Jesus is there.
Lacee, you’re grandfather has already seen you graduate because he had already envisioned it. He knew this day would come because he believes in you. Take with you the words he has already spoken to you about graduation day. Hear his voice. See his pride. Feel his love for you. These things are already tucked away in your heart. Live them on your special day–and you’ll both be happy.
My condolences and my congratulations, Micca
I lost my husband of ten years last week to a sudden unexpected heart attack. We have three children under 10years old. I cried so much everyday at his bedside hoping he’d wake up. Once he left us I’ve been desperately looking for some kind of sign or feeling that he’s there or watching over us. I don’t know if it’s because I’m still in disbelief and this is why I don’t sense him near or feel him checking in on us, but this posting made me feel a little better. It’s given me a little hope. Maybe he really is watching. He has to be. He has a family. He has young children. He can’t just go his spiritual way and not care, right? Do our loved ones have no cares of their earthly obligations once they’re gone? We just become nothing to them here while we cry and pick up the pieces alone? I talk to thin air in hopes he hears me when I say to him I love you! Where are you? I just feel like I need more confirmation or comfort that he’s here with us or keeping an eye on us and that he cares still. I feel selfish for wanting that. I’ve felt other loved ones presence. Where is my husband?
We lost our 33 year old son about 3 months ago, my wife and I can’t stand the hurt, we know Christ, but we can’t sleep at night, we go to the grave site and talk with him,we can’t to any of the places that we used to go with him for dinner, don’t know what to do, we pray continually for peace, people now treat hou like you have a plague or something, after being so helpful. Need help please!!!!!!!!
I googled this morning trying to find any hint of scripture that loved ones deceased may watch over us from heaven and praise God found your link on your book Untroubled Heart. I did this for a friend who recently lost his mother to cancer that was diagnosed in May and took her life 3 months later. My friend has been struggling for a few years with life issues of his own and his mother was the rock in his world. She was the driving force of her family, a family with strong Christian values, as well as huge player of good in her community. Her visitation and funeral were evidence of just how many lives she touched. My friend is struggling to put one foot in front of the other as his mother was the person he could go to for everything. He text me this morning that he was trying to believe in all that he has been taught and that friends and family are telling him about using his faith to get through this and said he was trying to find something that offered him peace that she is watching over him from Heaven. I would very very much be honored to be chosen for a copy of your book to give to my friend!!!!
I lost my husband ,my soulmate, in july 2014 it’s like losing a part of myself he was everything to me and i feel lots i’d like to feel very up in heaven watching over me and i feel he is in a better place not suffering with the cancer and i am i have you as a great person and have to be together for 30 years i miss him terribly and it is very very hard to be with adam without m hmm who was the love of my life and i am lost without them i’d like to feel free is always there with me i just cant talk to him and that’s just not fair why the good people go and the rotten people are still here i don’t like being alone i know but i know he is here in spirit alan barry i just want him to be happy and i hope he is with jesus watching over me watching over me watching over me watching over me
My grandparents, my uncle and many other family members have died. Do my grandma and grandpa miss me even though they’re in Heaven? I miss them so much and it hurts..
I lost my baby boy last year 31 October a very painful journey no amount of pain can amount to this loss. I encourage myself together with my husband that one day we will go to heaven and see our champ, but while we are here on earth we face the difficulty of living the reality that our precious boy is no more.
I just lost someone I loved and and devastated that I’ll never see him or talk to him again has me feeling heartbroken…my question is can he see everything I’m doing on earth and he passed knowing I loved him right before he passed away I want him to be happy and free and not hurt anymore with what’s going on down here..please help me out!!
Sonia
Dear Sonia, I’m sorry for your loss. I know the pain is great. I’ve been there. I’ve also been on the healing side. I share my story in my book entitled, An Untroubled Heart. TODAY only you can get it as an ebook for FREE! As I shared with Ava, I’m certain my book will help you during this most difficult time. You can get it at http://www.faithgateway.com/keeping-joy
I’m praying for you today. Micca
I lost my sister 6 years ago. My 25 year old sister. We were driving home and I asked please give me a sign. We went around a curve and it appeared as if we were driving into the moon, as a sunset on the ocean. I lost my precious mother 2 weeks ago and went down to my sisters near her grave and I asked my mom for a rainbow. I literally got every type of rainbow imaginable. One appearing to end right on her grave. Double rainbows, all the way home. I know they can hear me.
My brother has recently lost his wife of 40 years can you please send him a book will gladly pay but can not stand to see him in so much pain
Dear Sherry, I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your brother’s wife. Thank you for being there for him. I’m praying today that God will minister cofort and strength to your brother. I’m happy to send him a copy of my book. Right now, they are in re-print. If you need it right away, you can find it on Amazon.com the title: An Untroubled Heart; Finding a Faith Stronger Than All My Fear. God bless to you and your family.
I lost the love of my life my soul mate my best friend, just six months ago she was only 26 my heart aches for her so very much she was a very kind and loving person I know she in heaven with all the angels but I can’t get over her loss I was right there with her til the end and I picture her talking or laughing with her beautiful laugh , I just don’t feel like I can make it some days all I want is for this life to hurry up SO I can be with her again. I love you so very much my love!!!
We were together for almost 9 years and the went by so fast every day I couldn’t wait to get home to tell her about my day no matter how bad or how good it went she always made me look at the bright side of things made me a better person!!!
I lost my husband of almost 17 yrs in march 2017.
I was with him till the very end when he took his last breath while i was singing “Jesus loves u ” to him.
Some days it’s hard to get through cause of the memories we have.
I wld love to have 1 of ur books.
Ty soo much.
I would like to read your book right now I am looking, comfort, I am 70 and believe in and love Father Son and Holy Spirit. But at time’s I have a hard time getting the memories out of my head. Thank you.
I dont know what im going to get by commenting here,
Im dead mentally an year back when I heard on phone that we couldnt save your brother, I just started breaking every relationships with the people living in this world and promised myself for not to get into any new one,
, waiting for death every moment
Dear One, I’m so sorry for your loss and suffering. There is something better on the other side. Those who have put their trust in the work of the cross-where Jesus died for all our sins, will spend eternity in heaven. The bible tells us in heaven there is no more pain, sorrow, or tears. You can also have peace here and now. Sure, we live in a broken world where bad things happen. We suffer loss, disappointments, hardships but by putting your hope in Christ, he promises you peace that passes understanding, joy in the midst of hard times, and His daily power and presence. To have this you simple turn away from your sin and doubt. Trust God loves you and longs to give you a bright future. Ask him to forgive your sin and come live in your heart. Then, thank him for dying on the cross in your place so that you can have everlasting life. As a believer, we will see our loved ones in heaven. This means you don’t have to break your relationships. You can be with them for all of eternity. I’m praying for you today.
Everyone dies right, I don’t think something bad will happen after death, if so People with good karma could not have dead,
Definitely something better is waiting on the other side, In my opinion being with this body itself is a punishment for our soul, Any pain you take ; it’ll be caused by our own body, Being dead is better than surviving here for very no reason
I’ve lost my 13 yr old son last April 13, 2017, my eldest child, my only son, my special son, very devastating for a mother to accept the fact that my son is no longer with me. Each day i live with agony for longing about my son, i miss him so much that for several months now the pain never fades off but getting much deeper. I’m always thinking about him, of what he’s doing now? how is he doing in heaven? is my son happy or he is also thinking about us? so many questions but don’t know where to get the answers just to ease the loneliness. I wish to have your book to enlighten me of what shall i need to learn and understand what am i going through. regards.
When my husband died at 28. I was so scared with our 3 year old son. I didn’t work. But my main focus was if he was ok. I asked god every night for him to let me know he was ok. One night (about 3 months after he passed) my son and I were in a new apartment. I prayed for a sign. I dreamt that he called his mother while I was sitting at her kitchen table. She said yes, ahah, ok, that’s good, etc. I asked her to let me talk to him. She hung up the phone. I asked her why she didn’t let me talk to him. She said. He told her that he was fine, ok, happy. I woke up and my pillow was soaked from my tears I am sure my husband answered me. That was 28 years ago. We r fine
My boyfriend died on December 22 of a silent heart attack and he was only 58 years old, It is very hard to cope because I miss him so so very much and then I also lost my stepfather on Christmas Day, he was 87 and I also miss him and I hope I’ll get to see them in heaven one day, Can I get a copy of your book. I would love to read it. Thanks
My husband of 37 years passed on March 15, 2018, less than two weeks ago.
He was….he is still my world.
Nothing has purpose or meaning for me without him.
I try not to be too sad because I don’t want my grief to keep his spirit from moving on fully into God’s light. I imagine my husband’s likeness as being whole again… beautiful, strong, happy and brilliant.
This gives me strength.
Dear Elizabeth, I’m so sorry for your loss. 37 years together is a long time and will take some getting use to now that he’s gone before you. But you will survive! Grief is a process and God is with you every step of the way! I’m not sure where you got the idea that crying keeps our loved ones from passing over. It’s not biblical. The bible teaches, “absent from the body, present with the Lord.” That means, as soon as someone dies their spirit immediately goes to be with the Lord. There is no in between. I hope this truth brings you comfort. The bible also tells us to “draw near to God and He will draw near to you.” The more we think about God, go to him with our grief, the more we will experience His presence, strength and comfort. I have said a prayer for you, friend.
Thank you for taking the time to reply with your kind and helpful words. You are also in my prayers.
My husband of 40 years passed away on May 18th 2018 a little of over a month ago. I miss him so much and I do feel his spirit around me at times. When this death occurred I was with him until the end and, it was unexpected. I was told it was a blood clot. I did not want to live without him right then and there but, he has visited me five times since he has been gone and on the last visit he came as a spirit outlined in silver looked younger and we were in a beautiful park with all these people I have never seen before and I heard someone call my sister’s name who had died a year earlier. I woke up and I did feel a lot better and I still have sad times however, I know and feel he is with me and I will aee him again.
Love to everyone,
Patricia Jones
my world ended completely when my only son my most gorgeous son was killed on January 15,2018. my every thought is him, my every breath is for him, I cant wait to reunite with him when its my time to leave this earth. I haven’t been to church when this horrible situation took place. I am still in shock. my son has come to me when I’m sleeping and I am awaken by his voice say “HEY MOM” in his whispering voice. I am sad at the fact I will never conversate with him, have coffee with him, or even yell at him, because he would make me so very angry at times. I miss him dearly, I love him dearly and I cry for my son every day, but yes I want him to cross over, and I have heard if you cry to much the soul will not rest nor pass over. I try my very best not to cry to much, as I type this comment I am shedding some tears and I am in my office at work. I cant help it I cant hold my tears back my heart has been broken a trillion pieces, and no one will ever mend it together, not even god, I am very hurt.
Dear Lorraine, I’m so sorry for the loss of your sweet son. Having lost a loved one myself, I know your great pain. And it’s okay to cry and grieve over him. I cried reading your story. My heart goes out to you because I can identify with your grief. What I want you to know is so can God. He lost a Son too. The bible tells us He understands our sorrow and loss. In fact, Jesus wept over the death of His friend. Crying is part of the process of healing. Let it out. God sees every drop. He sees you and your pain. And, He’s right there with you. Longing to bring healing to your heart if you’ll let Him. He wants to walk with you through your grief. We do that be drawing near to Him. Praying. Telling God about our raw emotions. Asking Him for comfort and healing. It takes time and you’ll never stop missing your son. However, we have the promise that we will be reunited together in heaven. This is our hope we cling to. But trying to cry less so your son will pass over is not biblical. The bible teaches “absent from the body, present with the Lord.” When someone dies, their spirit goes immediately to be with the Lord! Take comfort in that truth. I’m praying for you today.
I lost my daughter, best friend, this past Thanksgiving, Ironic, how can I ever be thankful again,
She passed very suddenly, she was a nurse and had a cardiac respitatory arrest, no symptoms, never said goodby, only while she was hooked up to a ventilator. I held while she took her last breath. I must say I have no joy in my life or desire to live.
my mother died by suicide and I can’t help thinking it’s genetic
Thanks Micca – I missed my beloved husband every single seconds of my life. It has been 9 months and I still don’t believe that he has gone for real.
I have been praying for his return to me, I know nothing is impossible with God if we have FAITH in him.
I know exactly what you are going through Sonia. I lost my husband to heaven 5 months ago. I’m so heartbroken. I don’t like waking up in the morning. I want to be where he is. We were married 43 years. We were so comfortable with each other and almost knew exactly what the other one was thinking. He left for work on a Monday and the boss calls and tells me my husband is gone. I couldn’t believe it. I miss him more everyday. One thing that brings me comfort is knowing he accepted Jesus in his heart n made him his Lord n Savior. Hallelujah! So I know exactly where my wonderful husband is thank you Jesus.
My father died 10 years ago and although I don’t have the aching pain (I’m just numb now), I’m still troubled by it all. I have faith that I will see my father again, however. As one commenter stated, your loved one probably wouldn’t want to see us from heaven. In my case, with an alcoholic sister battling Parkinson’s, I think my father would be better off not knowing.
I lost my mom a month ago and it is really going hard with me What I would like to know is what she is doing and whether she misses me or not.
My boyfriend died from Covid recently and I would love to know more about the after life with Jesus Christ and if my boyfriend remembers me and is watching over me.