The winner of Suzie Eller’s book, Come With Me is ….. Connie Cox! Congratulations, Connie!
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Knowing When To Move On From Your Anger
Life is hard and bad things happen to everyone. Not just you. I understand that life isn’t fair but it doesn’t mean walking around in a bad mood ready to snap at others who happen to be in your path.
I’m not picking on you. I’m writing from experience. For years I was an angry person. Let’s be honest. Anger isn’t pretty on any one. I was moody and hard to be around. Most angry people are. You feel slighted, mistreated, and unjustly so. Because of this you may be looking for revenge or holding a grudge. This I know: Your attitude not only causes others to avoid you, it’s harmful to yourself. This is not God’s plan for you. He longs to heal you, but it takes participation on your part.
You have to know when to move on. When people begin avoiding you in fear of being bitten by the animal of bitterness that lives within, it’s time.
You move on by looking forward instead of behind. Sure, you past hurts. It angers you, and in most cases, rightly so. Yet, looking back leaves a painful kink in your neck. To correct it you have to leave your past behind. That takes courage, I know. Then again, if you could give it to God (as many times as it takes) and trust Him to make things right, He will—eventually. It may not be on your timetable, but God promises to right the wrong. Believing God will make things right on your behalf enables you to lay down your emotions.
Look ahead to God’s plan for your life. Look to what’s new around the corner—to what this season of life has in store for you. God promises you a bright future but you’ll never get there or reach your full potential as long as you hold on to the anger. Don’t miss out on your future by holding onto your past.
Loosen Up. This can be difficult because you feel frustrated in general which means you’re a time bomb ready to go off at the slightest aggravation. Can I be honest? From someone who has walked this walk, popping off only makes you look bad and lose the respect of others. You need to heal, let go, and allow God to bring you through. He’s the only one who can. Turning to anything secular will only let you down.
My attitude changed when I gave my hurt to God, and then, took ownership of my anger. As I confessed, I felt God uprooting the bitterness in my heart. Everything was different. By turning to God, He lifted the weight of my burden and set me free.
God wants to carry your burden too. It’s a process of learning to calm down, breathe, and let Him take the wheel. Little by little you’ll notice progress and so will others around you. As your days grow brighter, you’ll discover for yourself that God can change you, heal you, and right every wrong.
I’m so excited to have won! Thank you so much!
Thank you for sharing this – I needed exactly these words as I am carrying resentments and anger which are turning me into a bitter woman. I don’t want to be that person.
Your words have really touched me. I have been angry for a while and I need to find a way to let go. I went to the beach today to relax and clear my head I discovered that regardless of what you do to try to fill that void won’t work until you make peace with God. I came home still angry after a day of relaxing and fishing. I even tryed to drink to make it go away. I came home and found you online thank God. I will continue to read your articles to help me threw thank you so much.
I ran across your post today. I’m battling anger. We’ve had to let some people go on our church staff. My husband is the senior pastor. Can’t believe the rumors, remarks, assumptions, gossip and just plain awful attitudes that have emerged. The children’s pastor whom we let go has been talking very badly about my husband, spreading unkind remarks, lies, only revealing her side and not the full story (which would make her look very bad). Some families want to leave since this children’s pastor is now done. She has been saying that my husband wanted her gone and because he hired another children’s pastor to start, that he had this all planned out……yada yada yada.
I’m ticked. I’m frustrated. I want to tell the truth so badly and shout it out from the rooftops. I even want to go to the point of starting an anonymous blog to tell all the story and post it for all to see and read what pastor’s wives have to endure. I’m tired of remaining silent when my husband is blasted. Can you tell I’m angry?
I don’t want to be a bitter, resentful pastor’s wife. I’m fed up with disloyal members who won’t even come to my husband and ask for the full story.
Thanks for posting this today. I’m processing, venting and will soon come to my senses.